I remember being extremely influenced by my friends. At the time, I didn't think of it as the old "giving into peer pressure," but that's totally what it was. Whatever my friends wanted me to do, I was doing it. I remember acting on impulsions all the time, but then feeling guilty afterwords--it was like I didn't have any forethought (and after reading the article this week, maybe I REALLY didn't have the ability to think about the consequences of my actions).
I had a friend my senior year of high school who had gotten a felony and wouldn't tell any of us how it happened--he was very ashamed. One day he finally told me it was because he had slashed all the tires of every car in an entire parking lot. When I asked "why," he said "I have no idea." I think this really sums up the way teenage brains work...
I fit right in with the crazy teenager growing up, not listening to my parents and being influences by my friends. I never took it to far, but I did sneak out once and got in a very bad car accident that night. I decided that wasn't a good idea anymore and my parents still have no idea that I snuck out or got into a crash. I do have to confess that I did get pregnant at a young age, I didn't head my parents warning about sex and pregnancy. Sadly I lost my son in my 2nd trimester, hardest thing ever!!! It was a wake up call for me that I needed to get it together and truly grow up. Whatever that meant at 18. Now that I am 37, I have a great 12 year old son and I tell my parents that they were right a lot of the time back then, I was just to self absorbed to see it.
ReplyDeleteI was very much the same way as a teen. I would act impulsively, feel guilty afterward, and do it all again the following day or week! I know that consistent parenting and discipline help, but as you said, sometimes it just isn’t enough. There is no reasoning with the unreasonable, which almost all teens are. I know that the more I read about the teen brain and its lack of maturity, the more I want my daughter to stay 5! I know that it is going to be a challenge and I hope to be as supportive and as structured as she needs me to be. Hopefully she will have some idea of what she needs and I can fill in the rest.
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